The Daily Stoic for June 25th. “The Wise Don’t Have Problems”.
“This is why we say that nothing happens to the wise person contrary to their expectations.”
—SENECA, ON TRANQUILITY OF MIND, 13.3b
Today’s stoic excerpt seems to me like the part of yesterday’s stoic I can agree with. Silence is golden. I have always considered myself one of those people who “talks first, then thinks”. That’s a terrible problem, trust me.
The Wise Don’t Have Problems
With time, I have learned that it’s more important listening than speaking. In fact, it can help you reach your goals or convince the other end better. This might seem counterintuitive. However, when we don’t listen to others, sometimes we are doing wrong assumptions about what they want, think or feel. Maybe their positions are not that far from ours, or their ideas not that different as we might think
Hence, being able to truly listen to what they have to say can help you realize that something that looked like a problem, in reality, is not.
Obviously, that’s not the solution to any problem, but it’s a convenient way of avoiding adding more to the stack.
In fact, I am trying to do an interesting experiment lately. When I have the chance, I try to speak to people whose points of view are very different from my own. And then, I try to listen more and argue less. In a way, I try to dive through their way of seeing the world.
While many times I can’t really find points of agreement, sometimes I would find that my initial assumptions were wrong, and this person is not that different from me as I initially thought. Well, sometimes its easier said than done, but worth trying it.
Today’s Daily Stoic, “The Wise Don’t Have Problems”, discusses again the concept of silence as a way of listening to others opinions, instead of imposing our own. I think it’s a concept I can relate to, especially lately.
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